Real Talk: Turning 50, Brain Fog, and Why the Thermostat is My Enemy

Let’s be entirely honest for a minute.

I turned 50 last summer, and it feels like my body decided to throw a party without inviting me. One minute I’m fine, and the next, I am radiating heat like a wood-burning stove in mid-January and ready to have a 2-year-old tantrum because my sock is twisted!

If you’ve been with me for a while, you’re probably used to the cozy, polished updates I share here on Facebook and Instagram. I love those spaces, and they will always be a beautifully curated home for Fosters Fields. But lately, I’ve felt the pull to talk about real, raw life without the filters.

That's where TikTok comes in. Over there, I am letting my hair down and keeping it completely unfiltered.

A quick heads-up for my long-time followers: If you decide to hop over to my TikTok, please follow with caution if you are easily offended! You might see or hear things you normally don't on my FB or IG. It’s mostly business with a few honest unfiltered rants, it's a little bit wild sometimes, and it is 100% raw truth about what it’s actually like to navigate this chapter.

Perimenopause and menopause aren't glamorous. They come with skin that suddenly decides to dry out overnight, unprovoked mood shifts, and sleep deprivation that leaves you staring at the ceiling at 3:00 AM. When you hit 45+(or or me it was about 40), your body and your needs change. And honestly, the mass-produced, chemically laden products on the grocery store shelves just don't cut it anymore for skin navigating these hormonal shifts.

When I’m in the studio making soaps and pouring candles, I’m thinking about us. Women who need a moment of literal and figurative cooling down. Women who appreciate honesty, a good laugh at the absurdity of hot flashes, and products that actually soothe the skin and the mind.

We deserve self-care that understands exactly what we're going through.

"Hot Flash" Ritual

Because sometimes you just need to wash the day (and the sweat) away and reset your mood.

• The Cool-Down Bar: A cold-process soap formulated with extra-nourishing plant fats like shea butter and coconut milk to deeply hydrate parched, hormonal skin. Infused with a hint of natural peppermint and eucalyptus to leave a subtle, refreshing, cooling sensation on the skin. 

• The "Calm the Fog" Soy Candle: A clean-burning candle scented with paraben and phthalate-free fragrances known to ground the mind and ease anxiety—Lavender to calm and chocolate to do the rest, because we can't drink wine all day:)

Ready to treat yourself to self-care that actually gets it? Have an idea for a new soap or candle in honor of this stage of life? Leave me a comment with your thoughts!

Come Hang Out (Choose Your Own Adventure!)

Every corner of the Fosters Fields community has its own vibe. Pick the one that fits yours best, or follow along on all three to get the full story:

• For the Cozy & Curated: Follow on Instagram and Facebook for product updates, beautiful studio behind-the-scenes, and your regular dose of handmade goodness.

• For the Raw & Unfiltered: Come over to TikTok if you want the hilarious, gritty, no-holds-barred truth about life at 50, business ownership, and menopause. (Remember: easily offended folks, there may be honestly and foul language)

Carrie